Chemistry
Experienced nannies and reputable nanny agencies agree: mutual chemistry is one of the strongest indicators of building a lasting relationship with a family. Bringing a stranger into a home is a leap of trust for both sides, and the fear that a great interview match might turn sour later is mutual.
Unfortunately, mismatches happen. Sometimes a nanny quits on the first day, or the family lets her go soon after — often due to lack of chemistry or unclear expectations. Often nannies accept the first job offered without going through all the important steps to ensure the position will be sustainable, which can leave them feeling undervalued.
Nannies rejected by agencies take the opportunity to learn the steps required to secure better employment. However, nanny agencies remain one of the safest routes in the industry, offering structure, security, and a network of families. Families who use agencies learn that candidates have been thoroughly vetted, typically with at least three years of working experience, verification of references, education, and a demonstrated commitment to the profession.
The truth is, agencies require extensive screening, documentation, and reference checks before presenting a nanny to a family. Once a candidate is approved, a reputable agency becomes the safe haven for both the nanny and the family.
However, not all families use agencies. Some cannot afford agency fees, while others see them as excessive. Some agencies provide only limited guarantees, leading to poor results for the nanny many times, jeopardizing the nanny's reputation and financial means.
Both sides need to negotiate terms after the initial interview, allowing flexibility before finalizing the contract. But no matter the details, mutual chemistry is the cornerstone of a healthy working relationship and should never be overlooked.
This is why reputable agencies work hard to bring the right families and nannies together, not just matching budgets, education, and experience, but also aligning interests, values, and working styles to give both sides the best chance at long-term success.
Chemistry
Chemistry Checklist for Parents
Before hiring a nanny, ask yourself:
Do I feel I to be comfortable having this person in my home every day?
Does the nanny’s childcare philosophy align with ours as parents?
Did the interview feel natural and respectful on both sides?
Is the nanny’s experience and training suited to our child’s needs?
Did she communicate clearly and listen well to everything we said?
Are we confident she will follow our routines and household rules?
Is she knowledgeable about what we need?
Did they ask thoughtful questions about our child and family?
Do we feel we can trust her with our child’s safety, well-being, and privacy?
Tip: Mutual comfort and trust are just as important as skills and
experience. If you have doubts now, they may grow over time.
Chemistry Checklist for Nannies
Before saying “yes” to a job offer, ask yourself:
What was my first impression when they opened the door to greet me?
Did I feel comfortable in their home environment?
Did the interview feel respectful and genuine on both sides?
Do our values about childcare and discipline align?
Are the job expectations and boundaries clear?
Does the pay match the workload and responsibilities?
Can I envision myself working here long-term without resentment?
Did we discuss problem‑solving strategies for possible conflicts?
Do I feel the parents trust my skills and judgment?
Tip: If you feel uneasy or pressured to decide quickly, take time to reflect before committing. Chemistry should feel natural, not forced.